Comments on: Painful truths….

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Mon, 04 Feb 2008 03:37:39 +0000

Thanks for your kind comments about my blog when you were discussing porches and center halls. I just now saw that post.

Working on setting the tone of our home with our attitudes is a daily challenge isn’t it! But, it’s worth it.

By: Lindsay

Lindsay — Mon, 04 Feb 2008 02:21:32 +0000

Love this one. Especially about raising biracial children.

LOVE LOVE LOVE your tidbits about little miss hazel. Such a cutie!

Miss you!!

(((Lindsay)))

By: Jan

Jan — Sun, 03 Feb 2008 15:44:06 +0000

Thanks for visiting my blog, because it led me to yours! I just want to add that regardless of whether our kids are bio or adopted, and regardless of their race, we need to prepare them for the fact that “the world” is not as loving, supportive, or forgiving as home. It’s a temptation to overprotect, to wrap them in our arms and never let them go, but they need “the whole armor” of God’s word as well as our love.
Sounds like you are well on your way.

By: Jamie

Jamie — Sat, 02 Feb 2008 16:01:04 +0000

I’m so glad you stopped by my blog. It is always fun to find new friends in this blogosphere. I know what you mean about the tone…I wish as a woman I didn’t always carry that “responsibility” but I need to keep it in mind and check my attitude. It is the aroma of our hearts.

By: Say

Say — Fri, 01 Feb 2008 19:27:22 +0000

Aaaah yes. Setting the tone. I, too, fail at this daily. I am working on it, though.

I’m bi-racial and adopted. My mom didn’t know how to do my hair and she struggled with it. I lived through it. Would life have been better had she been able to do my hair right? Who knows. She covered other things that were more important, I guess One thing about bi-racial hair is that it is a different beast. Mom would take me to the black beauty salon and even they didn’t know what to do with my hair. They treated it like regular Af. American hair and I left the place all jacked up. As an adult, the best relaxer I’ve ever had was by a white woman with not a bone of black in her.

Anyway, I could talk hair forever!!

By: Belinda

Belinda — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 23:27:09 +0000

Hey, lady, I just wanted to check in on your world. This is a wonderful post, and so true. I have had to check self and where my attitude hinders us during the days together. For a couple of reasons, we have worked really hard in completing the book work, but we’ve seldom taken a field trip break or even gone to the library! So, instead of being Ms. Taskmaster, I began (just yesterday), after dealing with the oldest’s lackadaisical attitude, to welcome the kids to the table with a big, grand, “Who wants to learn today?” Her sarcastic response was “Not me”, but added a quick, “I’m just kidding.” At any rate, it allowed us to laugh in the midst of some hard work we’ve put in lately. In the next two weeks we have a couple of breaks for trips so I think we’ll be able to lighten up a bit and appreciate the home in homeschooling a bit more. God bless you, Sandi!

By: totaltransformation

totaltransformation — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 20:07:58 +0000

I didn’t know you had biracial kids. But then again, you’ve never posted a family picture.

By: mari

mari — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 08:22:54 +0000

your post is so beautiful. i have an african-american daughter. i am not her bio mother, but her foster mom. i learned a lot about life from raising ali and i learned that all people are not kind and good towards others. my boys, her brothers, would approach shop owners and ask them why they were following theri sister and not them? they accused more than one store worker of being racist and of racial profiling. i had to teach myself about her hair, and i learned the hard way when takign her for a new ‘do’ before homecoming and then she had a basketball game and the new ‘do’ frizzed. ouch. i then learned how to straighten her hair with a hot iron. i also learned what make-up companies didn’t create make-up for african-american skin and tones. i’m rambling here, but you made me realize how much i learned from raising ali.

where is she today? she graduated from high school and went on to college on a volleyball scholarship and is now is graduate school. and yes, i am still mom and she is very close to her brothers still and talks to them every day.

By: hiddenart

hiddenart — Wed, 30 Jan 2008 15:07:51 +0000

I’m with you. One of my greatest struggles is my tone of voice which (like Missy) I learned from my dad. Although I try so hard, I continually fail. One difference from my childhood being that I’ve shared many times with my children and husband about this struggle in hopes to educate and arm them NOT to pick up my bad habits, and to ask their forgiveness. They pray for me because they love me, and because they would like me not to speak that way anymore.
Much love to you. I’m so glad you didn’t have to resort to the antibiotic. I was not educated about homeopathic issues when my daughter was Hazel’s age. Poor girl practically lived on antibiotics for a year. Makes me sad to think about.
And the question of the day, how do you fix your childrens’ hair, especially Hazel?
amanda

By: missy

missy — Wed, 30 Jan 2008 14:50:57 +0000

Oh Sandi, I have been so convicted lately on the ’setting the tone’ thing. I get so worked up over the silliest things! I am what you’d call ‘high-strung’ and it needs to stop. I definitely see this rubbing off on my daughter and I am praying not only for help in changing myself, but also that God will reverse the damage I’ve already done to her.

It stinks. I learned this from my dad and now I’ve begun the cycle of passing it onto her. It must stop here!!

Thanks for another reminder of my responsibility to this family. It is something that should be shouted from the rooftops!